Toddler bedtime battles:
Why they happen & how to make bedtime smoother
If your toddler’s bedtime feels like a nightly battle—delays, tantrums, and endless requests for “one more story”—you’re not alone! As toddlers grow, they seek more independence, and bedtime is one of the first places they try to test boundaries. The good news? With the right approach, you can turn bedtime struggles into a peaceful routine.
Why do toddlers resist bedtime?
✔ Increased independence: Toddlers want to be in control, and saying “no” to bedtime is one way to assert themselves.
✔ FOMO (Fear of Missing Out): They don’t want to miss out on fun or time with you, so they try to stay awake longer.
✔ Overtiredness: If wake windows are too long, your toddler may be too wired to settle down easily.
✔ Inconsistent bedtime routine: If bedtime changes daily, your toddler might resist because they don’t know what to expect.
How to make bedtime easier for your toddler
1. Stick to a Consistent Routine
Toddlers thrive on predictability, so aim for the same bedtime and routine every night. A simple, calming routine could include:
Bath → Story → Snuggles → Sleep
2. Offer choices (but limited ones!)
Since toddlers love independence, give them small choices to reduce power struggles:
“Do you want the blue pajamas or the red ones?”
“Should we read Goodnight Moon or The Very Hungry Caterpillar?”
3. Use a visual bedtime chart
A picture-based bedtime routine can help toddlers know what comes next and feel in control. Let them check off each step (e.g., brushing teeth, putting on pajamas) to make it fun!
4. Set clear and loving limits
If your toddler keeps getting out of bed or making endless requests, set gentle but firm boundaries:
“It’s bedtime now. I’ll tuck you in once, and then it’s time to sleep.”
5. Create a Comforting Sleep Environment
✔ Dim the lights to signal sleep time
✔ Use a nightlight if they’re scared of the dark
✔ Keep a comfort item like a favorite stuffed animal
✔ Consider white noise to block out household sounds
6. Avoid big energy right before bed
Save active play for earlier in the day and keep evenings calm and quiet with books, puzzles, or gentle music.
7. Stay calm and consistent
Toddlers may test limits, but your response shapes their behavior. Stay patient, keep bedtime consistent, and avoid negotiating or giving in to delays.
Toddler bedtime struggles are normal, but they don’t have to take over your evenings. With a predictable routine, gentle boundaries, and a little patience, you can help your toddler settle into sleep more peacefully—giving everyone in the family better rest!